By Enrique Aguilar
From where it arises? How it is that many people are paralyzed in the life by fear to take a step and to be mistaken?
Memory the day that my father took me to the school of Leave to him to ask for my enter him. It was 6 years old and it faced first great test to me. It had to read a phrase and to write my name. Uf! In front of a gentleman who did not know don't mention it and in front of my father. Both they were kind if it did or or it did bad. With 6 years I began in the stress that supposes to be valued by others.
When we played in the childhood we explored, we tried, we underwent by the joy and the curiosity to see what happened. Of innate way we looked for the pleasant joy to discover new experiences and possibilities. We assumed small challenges that generated a pleasant tension to us, as jumping from a considerable height, to raise a tree, to go with the bicycle by a difficult way¦ This playful attitude to explore the life took to us to learn with speed. How it is that as adult we stagnated so much? How it is that we stopped exploring the life?
Memory the quiet suffering that I experimented in my scholastic stage. It had difficulty in learning the lecto-writing. A dyslexia detected by my educators did not put it to me easy. So to enter the classroom every day it was a torture, it had to avoid at all costs that the others realized my stupidity at the time of reading a text. When comparing to me with my companions, I myself it gave account to me of the bad thing that read. So, he had to live with the tension that supposed the threat that the teacher told me: - Enrique, reads having left I exposed without defense in the opinion of my companions and my teacher. The fear to do it bad was terrible so I developed all the strategies possible to be invisible and to happen unnoticed.
Now I know the force that has the instinctive necessity of property to the group. Our instinct is formed to detect situations that suppose a threat to our survival. In our origins as species, to have an anomaly that excluded to us from the group would be the safe death. Although nowadays to remain does not only suppose a physical death, the fear not to belong to the group continues comprising of us. Ours instinctive I always am alert not to show the anomaly thus so that the rest of the group does not exclude to us and to be able to survive.
Then, if this fear is instinctive and has as positive intention the survival,
we can do something on the matter?
In order to respond to this question it is necessary to consider that, the fear to mistake to us can help to remove the best thing us from we ourself, can be one of the motors that our creative potential activates to give the best thing of us to the group and thus to guarantee the permanence to the same. Or, on the contrary, the fear to mistake to us can bring about vital paralysis to us, that is to say, we did not make decisions and we did not happen to the action through fear, since, if we do it, one of the options possible is to mistake to us having left we exposed in the opinion of the others.
I believe that all educator, mother, father and all person generally, must deepen in occurring account of the tremendous impact that takes place when we judged to the other by how it is and how does. Especially the value judgment that we emitted the adults to the children.
The people who lived a childhood in an atmosphere on severe judgments, where not to make the things good were penalized with a punishment, probably have developed a fear to happen to the action and the change that supposes a limitation and a powerful suffering to them. On the other hand, the people who lived in free surroundings of judgments and where the error was not penalized, probably have more facilities of innovation and to adapt to the changes.
Most important that I want to transmit in this article, she is that whatsoever what has been shelp, our brain is plastic and we have the capacity to forget and to learn new forms to confront everything what it supposes a challenge to us. She As ally instead of enemy can be surpassed the paralysis of the fear and be used.
We must in our nature be prudent to guarantee our survival and also we have in our nature the impulse to assume experiences that they challenge to us constantly, as when ©ramos children and we rose a tree. Of this the personal and collective evolution consists.
I like to imagine the life as the game that she challenges to remove the best thing to us from we ourself. If we stopped matching this by fear to mistake to us, we died while still alive. It is to tell him NOT to the life.
The challenge of the challenges is to tell him IF to the easy thing and flowed and to tell him IF to which is difficult to us.
In what challenge litters? You are saying YES or these to him saying to him NOT.
Thanks to read my words.
For me it has been an enormous challenge to happen of the dyslexic boy who hid by the misspelling to share this with you.
With affection, Enrique